Women or Hoe's? MADNESS

Someone I know said, and I quote: "I respect women that respect themselves, but if a hoe don't respect herself that's how I will treat her." I was baffled by such a thing. I knew people thought this way but I had no idea that it was so common and so fluid. I'm a young male with "urges" but I suppress them and definitely don't take my frustrations out on the young women. Is this what the rap music and society has the youth thinking of their counterparts? Why do young women accept being called "hoe's", "b$tches", and being told they're bangable? Someone please enlighten me!